Seeing a child off to university, to continue their education in a much more mature and independent environment, is a very big moment for a parent. For many, it’s the moment that you release your child into the world to give them the experience of being self-sufficient. However, that’s not to say that you shouldn’t offer them some help along the way, especially when they’re preparing for what’s to come. Here are a few of the ways you can lend them some support.
Help them prepare their money situation
Those university years away from home are often where kids also get their first taste of financial freedom. For many, this means living off of their loans, as well as income that you might be able to initially provide for them. Teaching them basic budgeting will help them make their money stretch even further. For those who might have a lower-income household, you should also look at bursaries and other financial assistance that might be available to your child.
Finding a place to live
Choosing a place to live is not easy. Your child, who has likely never had a say in where they live, might not have the best eye for what they should expect, want, and need from a place that they choose. As such, you should tag along with them to take a look at the student accommodation options that might be on offer. You can lend an experienced eye to ensure that not only are they choosing options that will be within budget, but that meet all of their needs and are convenient to their university’s location, as well.
Help them manage the stress
Any change, even positive changes, can be stressful. If it’s stressful for you, imagine what it’s like for your child, as well. Even if they’re expressing nothing but excitement, be ready to offer a supportive ear once they get started. The sudden, new demands on them from the university learning environment, as well as the pressures of being independent and living with people they’ve never levied with before can all be stressful, indeed. Avoid the urge to call them back home, be encouraging, and assure them that they have the strength and wit to get through it.
Offer some tangible support
There might be some trepidation and you may want to avoid becoming the “bank of mom/dad,” but that doesn’t mean you can’t send some tangible support. For instance, you can send your child a care package that includes their favourite snacks and treats, which can be especially helpful if they’re feeling homesick. Of course, you can always send them a little virtual gift card, as well, especially if they have new stores in their town or city that they would love to take advantage of.
Just because your child is off to uni doesn’t mean that you can’t continue to lend a helping hand. Be there for them, and be ready to assist, but encourage them to do their best to thrive on their own, as well.